If you are beset with challenges in life, the ‘growing out of the situation’ involves doing better than the situation; that is the mantra.

So, if you are totally traumatized by the circumstances that you may be undergoing right now, the only way you can actually turn things around for yourself is to better yourself. Grow better with your own self first. And it means ‘behaving well’ than the situation that you are going through, behaving better than what is traumatizing you, behaving better than what it feels like—’so much’ of excruciating pain emotionally or any other way. Growing out of the situation involves only one thing: behaving better than the situation that you are going through. That is it! And it’s not so easy.

It is much easier said than done; that’s true. But the only way you can ensure that you can grow out of the situation is by behaving yourself better, behaving yourself better, behaving yourself better than the situation that you feel buckled under. Absolutely. But that requires expansion of yourself, that awareness, and that doesn’t come so easily. It comes with the life experiences, the experiences which can just shatter all that you have known, all that you have been holding on to and not letting it go. All that is confinement of your belief system—unless they are struck down, there would not be any change in you. It feels like your ‘life being taken away’. But no! A ‘life being given’!

Because unless you just clear the clutter that you have created out of your unconscious actions, nothing can be replaced ‘better than the person that you have been’; that is the problem. You have been the problem to your own success, to your own growth. But hardly you want to know about it because that exposes you; it puts you on the scale of vulnerability. And you feel, oh, you have totally lost the game.

Being vulnerable is the most powerful position. Absolutely! All the leaders are the most vulnerable people on the planet, and they are the most powerful because that means exposing themselves. That means being totally out in the open, naked. Absolutely.

So it’s very important that if you want to grow better with the situation, behave better than the situation that you’re going through. What about that! Behave better than the other person who is trying to sabotage you or image—sabotage your image, bring you down. Behave better than him or her. Just see the result.

Ah, if you give me one, I’ll give you three. Ah, good, go ahead! Go ahead, no problem. Well, it doesn’t mean that—what is being implied here—bend forward and give your other cheek; no, this is not what is meant. What is meant here is to do what is needed, and that is the most important thing. And what is needed is to behave better than the situation; behave better than the situation that you’re going through.

Otherwise, no matter who will advise you what—oh, you are going through this graha, or you need to wear this kind of thing in your fingers—so many things, you keep doing so many rituals. But if that doesn’t come about, if this understanding doesn’t come forth—to behave better than the situation, no god, no master, no ritual, no wearing of the stone on any of these would be of any help. Yeah, it is of better/greater significance—but what rituals could make the people who are sitting at the top? Do you think they have gained that power of authority by having performed some ritual? Because they are wearing something on their fingers or whatever! Yeah, these are important. And these are important because they will take you there where you are so purified, you are so sanctified, by some laws that you are most receptive to be in that specific mode. Then it’s fine. But that will only and only will take you to the place where what is being talked about here’, that is—behave better than the situation to grow out of the situation.